It is no secret that we are a society obsessed with technology. I read a sad statistic the other day that the average smartphone user touches his/her phone 2,617 times a day. Granted, the researchers who conducted the study counted every tap, swipe or click individually. But still, those 2,617 touches added up to 145 minutes a day that the average person spends engaged and interacting with an electronic device. In fact, most of you are probably reading this blog right now on a smartphone. If not, you are still reading it on some form of time-consuming technology.
Technology can be great. It allows me to work primarily from home. It allows me to maintain this blog which was originally started as a way for family and friends to read about our daughter’s adventures around the globe. Because of it, we can stay connected with loved ones in different cities, states and even countries. But technology can be addicting, and at least for me, it can consume hours of the day. For example, I likely spent at least one to two hours writing this blog. It took time to edit and add images, and categorize and tag it for SEO purposes. I did this all with some small hope that you might
spend 4 minutes of your day reading it.
Although I do most of my writing or my work after my daughter, Avery, has gone to bed, I’ll admit there are plenty of times throughout the day that my attention is directed to my phone or my computer instead of to her. Working from home means that I am often replying to work emails during a client’s business hours. If I’m not doing that, I am handling social media for this travel blog, or engaging with readers and responding to comments.
All of that takes a lot of time and energy, which is why I often feel extremely guilty that I’m not spending enough time with my daughter. I mean, that’s why I decided to work from home to begin with, right?! So that I could spend more time with my child? Any mother who works from home will likely understand that intense mom guilt. In fact, any mother who works period will understand that intense guilt.
All of this brings me to the main point of this article.
Every family should go off the grid.
Now, to be clear, I’m not talking about selling all of your worldly possessions, moving to the desert, living in a small hut made of mud, and growing your own vegetables. More power to you if that’s what you want to do. I like cable TV and WiFi too much to make that kind of permanent sacrifice.
I’m talking about a temporary disconnect from technology so you can reconnect with what is truly important… your family.
Eco-lodges aren’t really that common in the United States, but they actually are fairly popular in Central America. They are sustainable, earth-friendly properties. We didn’t have television or WiFi in our rooms. There were no electrical outlets, so blow drying or curling my hair was out of the question. I discovered I actually spend quite a bit of time doing things like scrolling through my Instagram. Doing my hair or mindlessly watching some show I truly care nothing about also takes up more time than I’d like.
You know how I spent that extra time in Belize? I spent it loving my family. We hiked to waterfalls and caves and down to the river. We laid around in hammocks and pet donkeys. Most importantly we talked to each other and listened to each other. We had meals together without distractions and spent all day outside until it was time for bed. We connected.
We were blissfully unaware of everything going on back in The States. Do you know we went a week without hearing any political news?! (Hallelujah!). We were clueless as to the relationship statuses, lunch choices or major (and minor) life milestones of our friends on social media. What we were aware of though, was each other.
Sure, my hair looks awful in all of our pictures from that trip and makeup would have definitely been my friend, but when I look back at those pictures, I don’t regret not having a way to do my hair. I don’t regret not spending time putting on makeup. Looking back at those pictures, I think about the great time we had as a family. I think about the priceless memories we made together, the closer bond that we built, and the fun experiences we shared with our daughter.
My advice is to take a vacation from technology.
You don’t have to go to a remote jungle in Belize like we did. You don’t even have to leave your city or your home. For one weekend, yes the entire weekend, turn off your phone, unplug your computer and your television and focus 100 percent of your attention on your family. Pray together, eat meals together at the table, take a walk, go for a hike or a bike ride. Spend time outdoors enjoying nature. Don’t respond to or even look at work emails or personal emails for that matter, leave the drama of social media behind, and for one weekend just spend time with your loved ones. I realize that can be hard, that’s why we chose to go where technology wasn’t even an option.
I think from time to time we all need a break from technology to evaluate our priorities and make sure our lives and daily activities reflect those priorities. Since returning home from Belize, I’ve been more cognoscente of how much time I spend on the computer or on my phone. I make it a point to look at my husband when he talks, even if I am right in the middle of writing a text or an email. Now, I leave my phone in another room and read books to my toddler every day. And I set limits on the amount of time spent on social media.
Overall, my family is my number one priority. I want that to be evident in how I choose to spend my time. It took going off the the grid and staying at a place where technology wasn’t available to realize it was consuming a big piece of real estate in my day. While I still admittedly spend a lot time on the computer or on my phone, I like to think my daily technology use has been downgraded to a small apartment instead of occupying the mansion I had let it overtake for so long.